The True Cost of Being a Bridesmaid in Nigeria – 5 Unexpected Hidden Expenses
Journey through the experiences of five women who learned the hard way that being a bridesmaid in Nigeria comes with hidden costs they never saw coming.
Being a bridesmaid is supposed to be fun, right? You get to dress up, support your friend, and enjoy the wedding festivities. But what happens when the excitement turns into financial stress?
Let me take you on a journey through the experiences of five women who learned the hard way that being a bridesmaid in Nigeria comes with hidden costs they never saw coming.
1. "The Shocking Cost of Aso-Ebi" — Ada, 25
When Ada got the call from her best friend, she was over the moon. “You’ll be my bridesmaid!” her friend said, and without hesitation, Ada agreed. Little did she know that ‘yes’ came with a heavy price tag.
“The fabric alone was ₦35,000,” Ada recalls. “Then, I had to find a tailor who charged me another ₦25,000 to make the dress. That’s ₦60,000 gone, just like that. I hadn’t even thought about shoes or accessories yet.”
Before agreeing to be a bridesmaid, ask about the cost of Aso-Ebi. If it’s beyond your budget, politely decline or negotiate for a more affordable option.
2. "The Unexpected Makeup and Hair Bill" —Chika, 27
Chika thought she had everything planned. She budgeted for the dress, bought her heels, and even had some extra cash set aside for the wedding day. But on the morning of the wedding, she was hit with a surprise.
“The bride had booked a professional makeup artist, and we were all expected to pay ₦15,000 each,” Chika says. “I was already sitting in the chair when I found out. What was I supposed to do? Walk out?”
And that wasn’t all. Hair styling? Another ₦10,000.
Always ask in advance if makeup and hairstyling are part of the bridesmaid package. If it’s too expensive, offer to do your own or find a cheaper option.
3. "The Bridal Shower Money Drain" — Tolu, 26
When Tolu’s friend got engaged, the bridesmaids decided to throw a lavish bridal shower. Everyone was so excited, but no one considered the cost.
“We all had to contribute ₦20,000 for the venue, decorations, and food,” Tolu remembers. “Then, a week later, we had to pay another ₦10,000 for the bachelorette party. It felt like we were planning a second wedding!”
By the time the wedding day came, Tolu was financially and mentally exhausted.
If you’re planning a bridal shower, discuss a budget everyone is comfortable with. Remember, it’s about celebrating the bride, not breaking the bank.
4. "The Hidden Cost of Transportation and Accommodation" — Zainab, 25
Zainab was thrilled when her childhood friend asked her to be a bridesmaid. The only problem? The wedding was in Abuja, and she lived in Lagos.
“I bought a flight ticket for ₦60,000 and booked a hotel for two nights, which cost another ₦40,000,” Zainab sighs. “That’s ₦100,000 just to attend the wedding, not counting all the other expenses.”
If the wedding is out of town, talk to the bride about accommodation options. Some couples arrange group discounts or offer a place to stay. If it’s too costly, it’s okay to decline.
5. "The Pressure of Giving a Gift" — Amaka, 27
After spending so much on the wedding, Amaka thought she was done. But then, the maid of honor sent a message: “Let’s all contribute ₦20,000 each for a big gift for the bride.”
“I was completely broke, but I felt guilty saying no,” Amaka says. “I ended up borrowing money just to keep up appearances.”
It’s okay to set financial boundaries. If you can’t afford an expensive gift, a heartfelt handwritten letter or a thoughtful but inexpensive present can mean just as much.
Being a bridesmaid should be a joyful experience, not a financial burden. Before saying yes, have an honest conversation with yourself (and the bride) about what you can realistically afford. True friendship isn’t about how much you spend—it’s about being there when it truly matters.
This is where Goldnlilies comes in. We understand the financial strain that comes with being a bridesmaid, which is why we offer a platform that connects you with affordable and top-quality wedding vendors.
From budget-friendly Aso-Ebi options to discounted makeup and hairstyling services, we ensure you get the best deals without sacrificing quality. Why stress over costs when you can find everything you need in one place?
Have you ever experienced bridesmaid expenses that caught you off guard? Share your story in the comments!
